1 - منافع مشترك ما بايد در رأس كار ما قرار گيرد . بهبوديء هر يك از ما به يگانگيء معتادان گمنام بستگي دارد . 2 - در ارتباط گروهيء ما فقط يك مرجع وجود دارد و آن پروردگار مهربان است . بدان گونه كه خود را در وجدان گروه بيان كند . رهبران ما خدمتگزاران صادقند و حكومت نميكنند . 3 - تنها شرط عضويّت در معتادان گمنام تمايُل به قطع مصرف است . 4 - هر گروه بايد مستقل باشد ، باستثنإ مواردي كه بر ديگر گروه ها و معتادان گمنام در كلّ تأثير بگذارد . 5 - هر گروه فقط يك هدف اصلي دارد و آن رساندن پيام به معتاديني است كه هنوز در عذابند . 6 - معتادان گمنام هرگز نبايد هيچ مؤسسهء مُرتبط و يا هر سازمان ديگر را تأئيد كند و يا كمك مالي نمايد و يا اجازهء استفاده از نام معتادان گمنام را بدانها بدهد ، زيرا ممكن است ، كه مسائل مالي ، ملكي و شهرت ما را از هدف اصليء خود منحرف سازد . 7 - هر گروه معتادان گمنام بايد كاملاً خودكفا باشد و كمكي از خارج دريافت نكند . 8 - معتادان گمنام بايد براي هميشه غير حرفه اي باقي بماند . امّا مراكز خدماتيء ما ميتوانند كارمنداني استخدام كنند . 9 - ما تحت عنوان معتادان گمنام ، هرگز نبايد متشكّل شويم ، امّا ميتوانيم هيأت ها و كميته هائي تشكيل دهيم كه مستقيماً در برابر گروه مسئول باشند . 10 - معتادان گمنام هيچ عقيده اي در مورد موضوعات خارجي ندارد و نام معتادان گمنام هرگز نبايد وارد به مسائل اجتماعي شود . 11 - خطّ مشئ روابط عموميء ما بنا بر اصل جاذبه است نه تبليغ ، ما بايد هميشه گمناميء خود را در سطح مطبوعات ، راديو و فيلم حفظ كنيم . 12 - گمنامي اساس روحانيء تمام سنّت هاي ما ميباشد و هميشه ياد آور اين است كه اصول را بر غرائظ شخصي و شخصيّت ها ترجيح دهيم .
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تجربهء ما در معتادان گمنام نشان داده است . 1 - هر يك از اعضاي معتادان گمنام فقط جزء كوچكي از كلّ است . نتيجتاً معتادان گمنام بايد به حيّات خود ادامه دهد . والا اكثر ما يقيناً خواهيم مرد . بنابر اين منافع مشترك ما در رأس قرار دارد و رفاه فردي بلافاصله بدنبال آن قرار مي گيرد . 2 - در ارتباط گروهيء ما فقط يك مرجع نهائي وجود دارد و آن خداوند مهرباني است كه خود را دروجدان گروه بيان كند ، پيشوايان ما خدمتگزاران صادقند و حكومت نمي كنند . 3 - عضويّت ما بايد تمام افرادي را كه مبتلا به اعتياد هستند در بر گيرد ، بنابراين به هيچ يك از كساني كه تمائل به بهبودي دارند جواب رد داده نخواهد شد و هرگز عضويّت ما به پول يا تمكّن بستگي نخواهد داشت . وقتي دو يا سه معتاد بمنظور هشياري دور هم جمع شوند ، ميتوانند خود را يك گروه معتادان گمنام بنامند ، مشروط بر آن كه بعنوان گروه به هيچ جا بستگي نداشته باشند . 4 - هر گروه در مورد مسائل مربوط بخود فقط بايد به وجدان گروه مراجعه كند و به هيچ مرجع ديگري جوابگو نباشد ، امّا در صورتيكه اين مسائل بر گروه هاي ديگر نيز تأثير بگذارد ، مشورت با آنها لازم است . هيچ كس يا گروه يا كميته ايالتي هرگز نبايد بدون مشورت با هيأت امناي كميته خدمات عمومي ، به اقدامي دست بزند كه اين اقدام تأثير مهمّي در سرنوشت معتادان گمنام داشته باشد . در مورد اين گونه مطالب منافع مشترك ما اولويت دارد . 5 - هر گروه معتادان گمنام بايد موجوديّت روحاني داشته باشد و تنها هدفش رساندن پيام خود به معتادان دردمند باشد . 6 - مسائل مالي ، ملكي و مرجعيّت بآساني ممكن است ما را از هدف روحاني و اصليء خود منحرف كند ، بنابراين بنظرما هر ملك قابل ملاحظه اي كه واقعاً مورد نياز باشد ، بايد بطور مجزّا بثبت برسد و اداره شود ، تا بدين ترتيب مسائل مالي از روحاني جدا باشد. گروه هاي معتادان گمنام هرگز نبايد وارد هيچ كار تجارتي شوند و اماكن مورد استفاده معتادان گمنام ،مانند كلوپها و بيمارستانهائيكه نياز به محلّ و مديريّت دارند ، بايد جداگانه اداره شوند تا گروه بتواند آزادانه و بدون تعهد در صورت لزوم با آنها قطع رابطه كند . اين گونه مؤسسات نبايد از نام معتادان گمنام استفاده كنند و ادارهء آنها بايد فقط در مسئوليّت كساني باشد كه از نظر مالي مؤسسات مذكور را تأمين ميكنند . براي كلوپها معمولاً مديرانيكه عضو معتادين گمنام هستند ترجيح داده مي شوند ، امّا بيمارستانها و مكانهاي بازسازي بايد كاملاً از معتادان گمنام مجزا باشند و تحت نظر پزشكي اداره شوند . با آنكه گروههاي معتادان گمنام ميتوانند با هركس همكاري كنند ، امّا اين همكاري هرگز نبايد بطور مستقيم به حدّ بستگي و يا تأئيد برسد . گروه هاي معتادان گمنام هرگز نبايد خود را به هيچ چيز وابسته كنند . 7 - گروه هاي معتادان گمنام بايد كاملاً خود كفا باشند و فقط از طريق كمك داوطلبانه اعضاي خود تأمين شوند . بنظر ما همه گروهها ، بايد هر چه زودتر خود را باين هدف برسانند . جمع آوري هرگونه اعانات خارجي چه از طريق گروه ها ، كلوپها ، بيمارستانها و يا مؤسسات ديگر با استفاده از نام معتادان گمنام بسيار خطرناك است . قبول كردن پيشكش هاي بزرگ و هرگونه اعانه اي كه نوعي تعهد بدنبال داشته باشد عاقلانه نيست . اگر موجوديهاي مالي معتادان گمنام ، بدون هدف مشخصي رويهم انباشته شود و مقدار آن از ذخيره معيّني بالاتر رود باعث نگراني ما ميشود . تجربه بارها به ما نشان داده است كه هيچ چيز باندازهء كشمكش هاي مالي و مرجعيّت نميتواند ميراث روحاني ما را به خطر اندازد . 8 - معتادان گمنام بايد براي هميشه غير حرفه اي باقي بمانند . مفهوم حرفه اي از نظر ما مددكاري يا مشاوره با معتادين در مقابل پول و يا بعنوان شغل است . امّا ما ميتوانيم معتادين را استخدام كنيم تا همان خدماتي را انجام دهند كه در صورت نبودن آنها به غير معتادين واگذار ميشود . براي اين گونه خدمات مخصوص ميتوان حقوق مناسب پرداخت كرد ، امّا براي كار دوازدهم قدم معمولي ، هرگز نميتوان مزدي پرداخت . 9 - هر گروه معتادان گمنام به حداقل تشكيلات و سازمان نياز دارد و بهتر است رهبريء گروه بين اعضإ در گردش باشد . گروههاي بزرگ ميتوانند منشي انتخاب كنند . گروههاي بزرگتري هم كه در مناطق پر جمعيّت هستند ميتوانند دفتر مركزي يا دفتر ارتباطات تشكيل دهند . براي اين گونه دفاتر معمولاً يك منشي تمام وقت استخدام ميكنند . هئيت امناي مركز خدمات عمومي ما در واقع كميته خدمات عمومي معتادان گمنام هستند . آنها نگهبانان سنّّت هاي معتادان گمنام و دريافت كنندگان اعانات داوطلبانهء ما ميباشند ،از طريق اين اعانات مخارج دفتر خدمات عموميء معتادان گمنام تأمين ميشود . كميته هئات امنااز طرف گروهها اجازه دارد روابط عموميء ما را در مجموع اداره كند و تماميّت و كمال مجلّه اصليء جمعيّت ما را تضمين نمايد . آرمان تماميء اين نمايندگي ها خدمت است و خدمتگزاران مورد اعتماد و با تجربهء ما در واقع پيشوايان حقيقيء ما هستند . آنها از سمت هاي خود بعنوان پايگاه مرجعيّت استفاده نميكنند آنها حكومت نمي كنند و كليد ثمر بخشيء آن احترام به هستي است . 10 - گروهها و يا اعضاي آنها بطريقي كه جمعيّت معتادان گمنام درگير شود هرگز نبايد هيچ عقيده اي در مورد مسائل بحث انگيز خارجي ابراز كنند . بخصوص در مسائل سياسي، مسائل مربوط به موّاد ( تخديري ، سكر آور ، روان گردان ) و فرقه هاي مذهبي ، گروههاي معتادان گمنام با هيچكس هيچگونه مخالفتي ندارند و در مورد اين گونه مسائل نميتوانند هيچگونه عقيده اي ابراز كنند . 11 - برخورد اجتماعيء ما در سطح عمومي بايد با رعايت گمناميء شخصي همراه باشد . بنظر ما اعضاي معتادان گمنام بايد از تبليغات پر سروصدا پرهيز كنند . اسامي و تصاوير ما بعنوان اعضإ معتادان گمنام نبايد از راديو يا فيلم پخش شود . و يا در روزنامه و امثال آن به چاپ برسد . روابط عموميء ما بايد بنا بر اصل جاذبه باشد نه تبليغ . ما هرگز نياز به تعريف از خود نداريم و بهتر است بگذاريم دوستانمان ما را توصيه كنند . 12 - ما اعضاي معتادان گمنام اعتقاد داريم اصل گمنامي از لحاظ روحاني اهميّت فراواني دارد و ياد آور آن است كه اصول اخلاقي را به غرائض شخصي ترجيح دهيم . فروتنيء واقعي را در زندگيء خود حقيقتاً رعايت كنيم و هميشه مراقب باشيم كه محبّت هاي بزرگي كه شامل حالمان شده است باعث ضايع شدنمان نشود و تا ابد در حالت شكر گذاري از آفريدگار خود باقي بمانيم .
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Twelve Traditions of Narcotics
"We keep what we have only with vigilance and just as freedom for the individual comes from the Twelve Steps so freedom for the groups depends on knowledge of our Traditions. As long as the ties that bind us together are stronger than those that would tear us apart, all will be well." When our Traditions are violated, the special love that powers this Fellowship cannot flow. When we feel hatred or tension, a quick look to the Traditions can sometimes identify the cause. Imposing one's will on another in the grip of a powerful emotion is likely to be faulty in some important regards. Best to pray. Spiritual strength is usually accompanied by a sense of calm. More than most people, we need to remind ourselves that God is the real worker of miracles here. At best, we are but instruments of our Higher Power. Seeing the Fellowship as the extension of some officialdom beyond what each of us carries in our hearts is a threat to our freedom. We put recovery and our spiritual needs first. We can tell if something is right or not by looking into our heart. Narcotics Anonymous is the spiritual moment that an addict discovers within themselves the strength to stay clean one more day. When we share this with even one other addict, we activate something we call Narcotics Anonymous. This moment is what we share together in recovery and it is the heart of our program.
12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. Recovery is an adaptation we make to the reality of our addiction. Recovery has to be learned and doesn't come easily. To protect the groups, whose primary purpose is to carry our message, we have evolved certain customs and ways of doing things that satisfy both our individual need to deal with life on life's terms while carrying a spiritual message. To succeed as a Fellowship we seek to avoid the entanglements that plague countless organizations and structured programs. We keep it simple not because it is easy but because thats what works best for many people. The atmosphere of recovery is too important to leave to chance. Newer members have to learn how we invoke and maintain the caring yet sensible mood that prevails where the NA spirit is strong and attractive. Too often, where we have grown too far too fast, we have lost this special quality and our meetings and our message suffered. We learn again and again to put our recovery first, as members and as groups. Traditions characterize a spiritually fit group of recovering addicts who find recovery in Narcotics Anonymous. When Traditions are violated, we have learned that fear has in some way gained a foothold. These fears justify wrongdoings. The only other possibility is simple ignorance. Violating traditions hurts the people involved. The fear makes it seem reasonable and proper for those doing the hurting to feel justified despite the evidence of their eyes and ears. This may be the essence of our insanity, not believing our own witness. If other members are hurting or behaving badly, they need extra love. If we are the ones who care, we are the ones who must pray for the extra grace and opportunity to help them in their difficulty. Newcomers are watchful and they can catch flaws in old-timers as quick as some of our NA scholars can spot a Tradition violation. "If it ain't practical, it ain't spiritual" is an old NA saying that shows how we deal with a good idea if it doesn't appear to be working. To retain a place in the NA program, everything spoken or written must prove its usefulness in the recovery arena. If love and caring are in evidence on the surface, it may indicate love and caring below the surface. If hatred and anger are on the surface, we may need to pray or meditate. If we can't do this, its a good sign that our spiritual condition is broken and must be regained before we can go on to anything else. We do this by going to our sponsor and home group and admitting our need for help. We try to recall what we did as newcomers to get back in touch with the basics that worked for us before we knew what living clean was all about. As we recover from our obstinate opinions, we regain flexibility and spiritual balance. Solutions begin to appear and again we realize that we are safe in recovery. We need to instruct each other in the Traditions. Sometimes we tell the newcomers to only focus on the Steps. However, for someone who is suspicious of the program and uneducated in being a part of a functional group, learning about the Traditions provides relief. Our Traditions give us information about our structure and explain the guidelines to principled behavior. We are careful to avoid using our knowledge of the traditions as rules for others. The usefulness of the Traditions is in learning to guide ourselves and make the right decision for the right reason. We can share our feelings and experiences with others without seeking to dominate or control. Because recovery is an inside job, the principles of the Traditions deal with the outside issues. They help us find ways to be useful as instruments of a loving God and avoid conflicts with others. Anonymity helps us look at the reality of a thing instead of the labels. So much in life comes to us promising one thing and delivering another. Authentic and real, life presents itself to us as it is. The trick is in being of sound mind and being able to believe the evidence of our senses. Since we are anonymous, we go by self-evident truth rather and authoritative truth. It is what happens and not just who did it. Traditions describe a reality. Awareness of this reality allows a group to relate to other groups effectively and maintain good relations within the group. When we say, "It's good enough" too often, we'll come up short in our Traditions. While Tradition violations may be hard to see at the time, the results are visible when a group becomes dispirited. When a group loses its spirit, no one feels like doing anything to help the group. Words are not kept. If you miss a meeting, you feel like, "So what..." Due to the nature of our illness, we need special rules to underlie our meetings and services. These rules are implicit in our Traditions and enable the principles of our Steps to be applied more consistently. The first rule is to not allow ourselves to be divided by apparent differences against our many real similarities. We identify these similarities and let go of comparisons that would emphasize our differences. The second is to share what we feel from our higher power when considering or discussing what we do in NA. The third is to include the members of NA by open information and direct participation in any process having to do with NA. Personal commitment in these areas alone will eliminate many of the problems that seem insolvable once they get started. People feel left out, fear is generated, facts get distorted and soon we are at war with our brothers and sisters. We learn to treasure certain values. Among these values are:
Vigilance is paying attention to what is going around you and accepting responsibility for your part in everything. This does not mean that, for example, if someone talks too long in a meeting, then you interrupt them immediately. Show a little compassion. Our rooms are full of people who used to talk too long. We may learn to pause and consider why it's such a big deal. Ask yourself questions, like: "Why do I care? What is he doing that annoys me, and what do I do that is like that? Do I feel I am a failure if someone in my proximity doesn't do well or as much as I expect of him? Do his shortcomings really reflect on the me or the group?" It is our experience that we have trouble accepting in others the aspects of our character that we are unwilling to accept or change for ourselves. Further, when we accept or change those aspects of our character, we will likely become detached or uninterested in those who display those aspects - unless they want help or are sharing their experience with us (this is when fellowship outside the rooms comes in handy).
We know that addicts will test our love and spiritual strength. We also know that many addicts who havent reached the same level of desire will exercise their pain within our ranks. It is up to the members with the desire for recovery and the ability to admit the need for help to provide the strength and love required in order for the recovery process to work. It is easy to underestimate the experience and courage we have developed as a Fellowship. Many people think spiritual principles are just words on a page, meant to sound good without practical value or useful application. Nothing could be further from the truth. The truth we share has withstood all the assaults the disease of addiction could throw at us. While we come from all backgrounds, we have in common our pain, despair and hopelessness. What holds us together is our common desire for recovery. Narcotics Anonymous is the applied love, experience and hope of a Fellowship that has been succeeding against all odds while the disease of addiction rages and tears apart any who fall into fear, disbelief or manipulation. Our honesty is no luxury - it is a necessity. Those who abandon the Traditions, abandon themselves from the help that gives them a new life on a daily basis. Reality enforces the Traditions in terms of the way things are. Many come to get clean in NA. We have found a place for every addict with a sincere desire for recovery. Sometimes very damaged and disadvantaged addicts are able to achieve ongoing recovery while others better educated and smarter in ways are unable to make their surrender. There is no way for the program to work for us unless we want it to work. The openness of our hearts to change is controlled by our desire and others respond to our need on an instinctual level. They help provide whatever they can to help someone who is honest about their need, willing to try what works for others and open-minded enough to listen to our message. We need all the help we can get. Usually our need for help is to deal with life as things begin to get better for us. We have become so good at dealing with disaster, we have to learn and relearn to function in everyday reality. Many of us continue to create trouble in our lives long after the drugs are removed. These are the reasons we cannot drift of into a dream of normalcy and have to arrange to offset our fear and disbelief everyday. Our emphasis on giving, service, and helping others points us in the direction we usually need to grow towards. It makes us open to change by giving us first hand experience of help roles and that makes it easier for us to accept help from others. When we give a lot, we are more open to receive. It is easier to believe there are no 'strings' attached to help we receive in recovery when we realize we are giving selflessly. Our meetings are learning centers where we model what we have learned and practice being our real selves in the company of others who have our disability and will help us reach the goals we set for ourselves. To a great extent, our Traditions control the social and spiritual rules that govern group behavior and make our special way of life possible. It is not that we are against individualism; we have learned that our individual breakthroughs need to be constantly shared and processed by our friends in recovery to maintain the spiritual support we need as we grow. Getting out of touch cuts our lifeline. If we can pray and meditate, we can pray to be used as instruments and await the strength and guidance that always comes when we pray for it.
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